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Oct
08
2007

My Mom's Passing

My mom passed this evening at 7:21. She went peacefully and actually had the best day she has had in the past month. She had been in a semi fetal position as I think I had stated earlier. This morning when I went in she was relaxed and stretched out like she had a good night’s sleep. She was peaceful all day long and I sat with her as she took her last breath. I am not sorry at all for the past three weeks I have spent with her though at times I was so very tired and stressed and wondered if I would be okay the next day and how long I could do it.

Her suffering is over. She is at complete peace and for that I am very thankful. She will be so missed but we all have fond memories of her and are glad she is no longer in pain. Thank you all for your well wishes.

Maudie Allen Arledge Bellah

April 28, 1930 – October 8, 2007

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Carrie (Cinnamongirl on MJF)

I am glad she went peacefully and you were there. Farmgirl Hugs My condolences to you and your family. God Bless you all

God bless her–God bless you all. MB

Christiane

Susan, I am sad, and at the same time, I know she has found the Peace…You must be proud having given her all your love and peace for her last moments…It’s not easy for me to have the right words in english…Love for you and your family…

Victoria

Susan, please accept my heartfelt condolences.
Victoria

Susan,
I am so very sorry.

I am glad that you were there for her, even in the end.

May God grant you peace and comfort over the next days, weeks, months and all the special occasions when you will truly miss her most.

Becky

You are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

gretchen

When my daughter died, people always tried to say the right thing, but never seemed to get it right. I know that I won’t do any better than that, but here goes… I’ve been with you from far away through this, and will continue to be with you as you heal. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Please don’t forget to take some time for yourself, and don’t let anyone try to hurry you through the process of grieving your mom. Hugs…

Annie

Just catching up with your posts. My heart goes out to you right now. I hope you are able to take a rest for yourself. Your kids sound delightful in how they have helped this last while – a credit to you. God bless.

Connie C.

Dear Susie,
I know there is nothing I can say to ease your feeling of loss—-even though we are so grateful our Moms are no longer suffering—-it doesn’t take away the pain. Just rest assured you DID all you could—went beyond the call of duty AND she knew just how very much you loved her. Please tell Hannah my thoughts and love are with her too, as well as all of your children and Jerry. I know how much Nonnie meant to Hannah as well. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help in any way.

Susan, my sincere sympathy to you and your family. I only hope that when the time comes for my parents I can be half as strong as you have been for your mom.

Blessings!

I’m sad to hear of this loss, but rejoicing with you that she’s finally not suffering. I believe God will bless you for the time and energy you’ve spent making her last months as comfortable and blessing-filled as possible. You’re a great daughter!

Annie

My heart goes out to you and your entire family. Sending a prayer for strength and peace for you.

Lisa

I am sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

God Bless…I’m so glad your mom has moved on from her suffering and that you were there to see her on her way! what a privilege to be able see that a loved one leaves this world with peace and comfort about her…

having been there will make the coming months pass more serenely for you and yours…

know that I’m giving you a big Georgia Squeeze right now…

a big hug to you Susan. wish I could give one to you in person. let yourself grieve..there is a process to it that you’ll go through(you’ll cry, and you may even have little bouts of anger from time to time..but it’s all part of the process)…but you’ll always have your mom in your heart. remember to take some moments for yourself as you go through this next phase of the journey. I’m glad that your mom went peacefully..and there is no more suffering. love to you and your family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God bless you and keep you. Hugs, Lisa C.

andylynne

I have read from afar your journey with your mom. I haven’t commented or posted. Seemed better left to those who knew you better in and out of cyber space. My deepest condonolences go out to you and yours. May the balm of her memory soothe and heal.

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. My prayers are with you and your family. You will be on my heart.

Oh, Susan, I have been praying for you, your mom and your family daily. I am sorry for your loss, but am also happy that she is no longer in pain and in a better place. My thoughts are with you and I know that your mom could feel you there. You were a true blessing to her!

Vicki

I’m sorry for the loss of your mother. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family. May God bless.

I will not say I’m sorry, because I do not know how you feel. I have not lost my mother, therefore I cannot be “sorry”…boy, I hate that word.

Take comfort in the Lord’s mercy. You can BOTH get some rest now…

Samantha

Susan,I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother. My thoughts are with you and your family. Sending big hugs to you.

firemama

Susan ,I am very sorry for your loss, but you know your mother is whole,in body and spirit now. I will be thinking about you and your family.

Deanna

Susan, it was only fitting that you should be there when she took her last breath as she was with you when you took your first breath. You will always remember the days you spent watching over her and as time carries on, the loving memories of your past will wash over you and hold you with a warm tenderness. What you did was hard. There’s no denying it. You didn’t have to be brave…you just did your duty as she would have done for you. You were strong in your resolve to “be there” for her. That’s all anyone can do. You gave your all Susan.

My sincere condolences to you and your family.

Praying for you,
Deanna

Joan

Susan, I am so sorry for your loss of your mother. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
We will be here whenever you want to write about how you are feeling or anything you would like to tell us about your Mom. I will be happy to listen.
Joan

Oh Susan, I’m so sorry for the loss of your Mum. It’s been such a hard time for you both. She is at peace now and you will find yours. I’m sure your family will continue to be a great comfort to you at this time. Warm regards and hugs from Scotland.

Ann

I’m so glad you were with her at the end. Susan, you were such a good daughter… you truly got it right.
Sending a cyber-hug and prayers for all of your family.

carol

Susan, take your time to grieve and cherish the memories! Carol in So Cal

mariealicejoan

Susan, I am very sorry to read this today. I have been way behind on my journal reading due to work commitments. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family at this very sad time. How wonderful that you were able to be there for you mom during these past few weeks and that you were there with her as she passed on. We should all be so lucky to have a loved one with us, comforting us at that time. God bless you.

So sorry about your loss. Praying for you and your family.
Anne-Marie

Nancy Adams

Oh, Susan, I am so sorry…
From reading your posts I am sure you will have no regrets for being there with her as much as you were. I hope I can be as strong as you when the time comes for my mom. You are an inspiration.
Blessings to you and your family at this difficult time.

My heart and prayers continue to go out to YOU and your family…I’m so glad you were with your Mother when she went to be with the Lord~ how wonderful. That moment will forever be played in your mind..I was with my Daddy when he took his last breath two years ago this Nov. 24th. I know Daddy was aware we were all there…his eyes were opened~ he had been in a coma for weeks before…Just to think…your Mother is now with the Lord!

our Father has called another valiant soul home once again!
please know that you will be in my prayers during these next difficult days.

you did good.

Amy

I’m truly sorry for your loss. My grandad passed away recently and although i’m sad about it I’m relieved he’s in a better more peaceful place. *hugs*

Gail

My sincere sympathy to you and your family. Although it has been exhausting, you will continue to be grateful that you were blessed with the opportunity to spend that time with your mom and for your mom.

Continuing to keep you in my thoughts and prayers,
Gail

Nicole

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I just got back in town and came here to see how things were at your home.

I am so sorry for your pain but am so glad that you were able to be there by her side at this time.

Pleae know that I am praying for you and your family. Again, thank you for sharing this time of your life with us.

Much love and prayers,
Pat

Anne

Your Mother knew you were THE one. Please rest and give my best to your family. Anne

Susan, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Even though in cases like this death is a release and relief, it doesn’t make the grief any less or any easier to go through. One thing that was SO helpful to me was suggested by a grief counselor with Focus on the Family. When we are so busy and have children to care for, we need to make time for the grieving process. She suggested to set a time each day that would be the “grieving time”. that way when something happened that reminded me of my mom at a time that was not the best time for grieving, I knew that I would have time to grieve later. Instead of just stuffing the pain because I had young ones to care for, I was able to deal with it at that set time each day.

I am so sorry. Please know that I am thinking of you and your family. I am glad you were able to be with her.

I know it was hard. You’ve been a wonderful and loving daughter and you’re probably exhausted. Take care of yourself.

Jolynna

Bev

I’m sorry to hear of your loss, said a prayer for you!

I am so sorry for your loss, dear one.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
It is such a difficult time. My Dad just passed away in May very suddenly. It has beendifficultto get through, but each day I feel better. I just read a really good article in Real SimpleNov 07 about grieving a loved one, it was a nice article. Cherish and remember the wonderful and happy times.

Bristol

My heart and my condolences go out to you.

Deborah

What a beautiful lady! She looks very joyful!

Susie,
I am so very sorry for your loss. You and the family are in our thoughts, my dear friend.

I have been off line for awhile due to our move to Texas. I am catching up on posts and wanted to let you know how sorry I am about your mom. You did a wonderful thing for her, by caring for her.

Love you