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Jan
20
2008

Tea and Sympathy

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If I could invite you all over for a cup of tea, I would.  You are all too, too kind and generous with your sympathies.  I think unless one has lost their mom, it is hard to imagine how you will feel. As I have honestly stated before my mom and I didnt always see eye to eye and get along perfectly.  But we always loved each other regardless.  And I knew I would miss her, I just didnt know how that would feel.  Or how I would handle it.  If I would just have sad moments where something made me cry or if I would have days where I stayed in bed and felt sorry for my orphaned self.  I have had both now.  That of course doesnt mean the end of it.  I doubt it will ever end.  If I could bring myself to get busy with things it would help.  But even with all my cleaning plans, and sewing projects, I didn’t do much yesterday.  Just vegetated.

Today is a new day and I AM going to do more.

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It is so difficult to lose a family member. It’s also difficult to do very much while in the grieving process. My heart goes out to you.

A tea party would be wonderful. We could share memories and cry and laugh together.

Grief doesn’t always come when you expect it to, or in the manner you expect it to. Let yourself feel it, and take the time to pamper yourself a bit, whether it is a long bath, or a cup of tea with friends. You’ll be in my thoughts…
Deanna (the apronista)

Sue

I lost my Mom almost 2 years ago so I know what your going through, but we must go on to honor them and all they have blessed us with. Your Mom will always be with you, smiling proudly so when you feel the tears coming on, let them flow, it’s all apart of the healing process! Hugs!!

I lost my mother December 6. My heart goes out to you as you grieve in your own way. You and your mother were one at one time – you will miss her. No matter what kind of relationship you had, I believe there is always a tie/bond between mother and daughter.

Michelle

hey there, I was bored and thought I would stop by and see what you were up to. Sorry you had such a rough weekend, you should have called me!
I hope you are feeling better. As you know I lost my brother almost 10 years ago and I still grieve, I even cry about it sometimes. I think its natural, its someone you loved and you miss. Its good to have that kind of love in your heart.Isn’t it sad at the thought that some people never know that kind of love? I know how you miss your Mom and I am sorry you are hurting!
I love ya!

((((hugs))))
I think a tea party would be grande! I wish I could just pop over and have a cup of tea with you as well. I’d even bring cake!

I almost know how you feel. We are coming up on 3 years since my mother-in-law passed away from cancer.

While she and I had our differences, I loved her. And now there are times that I am “trying” to do something new with baking or sewing / quilting, and I just start crying, remembering the times I had with her, the things that she taught me and how that is all gone for now.

I will be praying for you. I would like to say it gets better, but I can’t , really. But it does get a little easier.

Much love and blessings to you today,
Pat

Beth

I lost my mom 27 years ago at the tender age of 16. We missed sharing so much together… seeing me get married (24 yrs today), being there when her grandson (now 23) was born. Still at times I find myself grieving and wishing she could be here for me to talk and confide in.

Grief is part of the healing process. It’s not always pretty but its something that we all have to go through and deal with in our own unique way. I’m hear if you ever need me and I have big shoulders.

Love ya bunches! Hugs & kisses.

P.S… I’ve always wanted to do a tea party! lol

Isabella Gladd

I came across your blog title on the front page. I love tea, all things tea, and tea parties which captured my interest. I am sorry to hear of your loss. I am motherless daughter, too. Life grows over the open wound of sadness, but the scar remains.

I wish you well and may you find all the joy life has to offer.

Isabella

Connie

Hope things seem a little brighter today. I know each of us grieve differently–and at different stages after losing someone we love, especially our Moms. Mama has been gone 6 1/2 years now—but I sometimes still feel an overwhelming sense of loss and grief. I want life to be like it once was again. Losing my brother Charles 2 1/2 years ago has also been soooo hard for me—the two of us were so close. Please be patient with yourself and understand it’s o.k. to have the feelings you have. I hope you will soon feel brighter and encouraged and more joyful—about yourself, your sweet family and your upcoming trip.

Kim Pebley

I am currently helping my mom live with Stage 4 cancer. The doctors said she would not make it through Nov… I just returned from staying with her for 8 days.. she is doing well for her condition. We know her day is coming.. and like you, I will miss her greatly but until it actually happens and you experience the grief you never know how that feels. My thoughts are with you………
Kim in Havasu