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Sep
22
2008

Misty water colored memories

Most of this weekend was spent with my sister in law going thru, packing up, dividing and cleaning out my parents house.  Apparently if all goes well by mid October, someone else will be the proud owners of their house.  I had dreaded starting this job in such a way that it will soon be a year since my mom’s passing and aside from a few nick nacks and things, I had ignored the task at hand.

My parents were an odd pair.  I never really saw them  as a “couple”.  They were my parents, my children’s grandparents, employees, employers, business owners, school volunteers, lovers of all things food related…but never ever saw them as a romantic pair.  I never saw them embrace in way that would lead me to believe they had ever been intimate.  Though obviously they had, there is me and my two younger brothers.  I have often wondered if we might be warping our own children by showing affection towards each other  -  holding hands, my sitting on Husband’s lap, him swatting my behind as I get up, him pinning me against the kitchen cabinets for a big wet smooch because really what is more romantic than cooking together? My stomach doing a flip when the phone rings at 10:30 a.m. because I know it is him and then me running to the bedroom to talk to him because the things we have to say to each other are private and very personal and not for anyone else to hear.  This is after 35 years together.

Never once in my whole life did I see my parents hold hands, kiss passionately, her sit on his lap, him swat her behind…nothing of that nature at all.  I don’t know what I really thought of their relationship. More a comedy of errors than anything else.  Things were never “easy” for them.  Never. But my impression of them as a couple has never been clear to me.   Not really deep down.  I have had regrets on their behalf because I felt they didn’t know each other in that way. And not necessarily because we ALL think it icky to think of our parents in such a way.  So imagine my complete surprise when I found a love letter from my dad to my mom written just 3 months before they married – postmarked September 23, 1957.  And yes, I read it.  Not every single word, I felt like I was violating a serious confidence by merely opening it.  But I had to take a glimpse.  Evidently my mom had flown out to see my dad at the army base where he was stationed.  I could just see her descending the steps of the plane and running into my father’s arms, suitcase in one hand and holding her hat on with the other.  Probably in a suit with high heels and wearing bright red lipstick and the perfect jewelry for the outfit.  My mom was quite the clothes horse back in the day.  The letter was filled with “I love you, like no one has ever loved before” and “don’t know how I will live until we see each other again” and how his heart was breaking as he watched her plane take off after what evidently was a very romatic weekend.  Romantic enough that they married three months later.

I have thought about this letter so much in the last 24 hours.  Not about what it said as much as the fact that it even exists.  If you asked me to describe my father I would have said many things…funny, hilarious actually…ADHD…OCD…co-dependent, creative, musical.  He was a great and entertaining father but I had my doubts about what kind of husband he had been to my mom.  I know he wasnt the kind of husband I have.  He was not in any way selfless or particularly giving where she was concerned.  It was more of a “she took care of him” sort of thing.  But this letter gave me pause.  Maybe I had mis-read them.  Maybe they were just that private and grew up in a time were public displays of affection were just too taboo.  I thought it was a very sweet gesture on his part to send her a SIX page letter and write it evidently just hours after they parted company.

The letter lay on my desk all night.  I woke up this morning, sat down with my coffee, picked up the envelope again and something seared my eyeballs: POSTAGE DUE 3 CENTS.  I spit coffee all over myself.  I sat here by myself and laughed until I cried.  Now THAT was the Daddy I knew!!! Whew what a relief!!!

Sep
22
2008

The Winner of the Oregon Trail Soapers Supply Giveaway is…

Judy Pittenger!  Congrats Judy!  I need you to zip me your mailing address and we will get your gift right out to you!!!

Thanks to everyone who left comments.  Obviously Suz at OT is much loved…and for good reasons!

Thanks again Suz for allowing me to feature you on my blog!

Sep
20
2008

Oopps! Missed Thoughtful Thursday!

Its been a really busy week, as you might have noticed from the lack of posts and such.  I have not been lounging around, eating bonbons and watching Law and Order.  Okay, I have watched a lot of Law and Order but as I was going in and out of the rooms cleaning and organizing.  Now I have to shift it into high gear because Husband is coming home Thursday!  Yes, it is almost that time.  And it will be a rushed 16 days before he leaves again.  First for England then back to work from there.  I can hardly believe that I am going to meet him in England.  Pack light, pack light, pack light.

My sister in law is down this weekend for us to begin the big Clean Out.  We signed a contract on my parents house day before yesterday so if all the inspections go well, it will be sold.  The closing might actually take place before I leave for the UK.  Doubtful but it is possible.  I have no idea about the prospective owners.  Not a thing.  Except their loan qualification went well.  And if you listen to the news, that is a bit of a miracle with the housing market/situation the way it is.  If I thought about the financial situation in this country I would be sick.  So, I just won’t think about it much.  Nothing I did caused it, and nothing I can do will fix it so, I will Keep Calm and Carry On.

Time permitting, I will harvest some pumpkins this weekend as well.  And of course I will share pictures of them with you.  I see several fairly large ones in the patch and if all this rain hasnt caused them to rot, they will be very pretty sitting on my porch.  My daughter in law called last week wanting to know if I would have enough to share.  Hopefully.

Rather than continuing to ramble here, I shall get up and get busy.  There is much to be done in the next few days.  And I am determined to finish the red ticking apron I have had started for weeks now.

Have a lovely weekend – talk to you all soon!\

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