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Jun
18
2009

Thoughtful Thursday

On this already very warm Thursday morning I am still thinking about gardening and the responses to my post about it.  I didn’t approve all of them.  For several reasons.  The main one being I don’t have to.  I love the fact that people think they know you from a blog and then fain complete and utter disgust at the moment they realize you are not just exactly like them. I had the audacity on MY blog, to mention MY political views.  And not even in any detail.  The nerve I have.

I received several nasty little notes, that I deleted.  But rest assured I am thoroughly scorned and scolded.   See here is the crux of the matter.  While not everyone who reads this blog  lives in America, I do.  I exercise our right to free speech every day by what I listen to and watch and read.  And certainly what I say and write.  And as much as I see and hear, I am still shocked at some people’s reaction to anyone they disagree with.  If I go to a blog and find that the author is of a different opinion than I am on anything, I don’t begin to entertain the thought that I might leave a comment about how ignorant that blogger is.  Or how misinformed they must be.  Or what a bad person they are for believing or thinking the way they do.  I may not agree with them, in fact I may vehemently disagree with them, but I respect their right to their own opinions and thoughts.  WOW what a concept huh?

If you come here often, you know I am not prone to political or religious discussions.  In fact I purposefully do not let myself go there.  That is not what this blog is about.  It is about homemaking and gardening and the love of aprons and overalls and family and food.  I have yet to see a benefit to arguing with strangers about politics OR religion.  It only upsets both parties because I believe if you are willing to spend your time arguing, your mind is fairly made up and who I am to even care what you think or believe?

There are only a few things that make my blood truly boil.  Two of them being injustice and intolerance.  And following closely in third place is rudeness.  Those three “qualities” in a person are all-telling.  Some people just have no manners what so ever.  When you visit someone’s blog, it shows intelligence and a good upbringing, to be able to control yourself enough not to leave rude, snippy comments.  If you disagree with them, then excuse yourself, just as you would in real life, retreat to your own corner of the World Wide Web and go on about your own business.  It also shows an abundance of good character to be able to find a common ground and over look differences.  I think the world we live in, the news we hear, the wars, the strife, the suffering is evidence enough of what lack of character and a bad upbringing can do to people.

My opinions are just that, MINE.  For those that are sorely disappointed in my views on things, well, I would like to say I am sorry but I don’t like to lie.  I honestly don’t care.  No more than you should care what I think of your opinions.  It is nice to find something in common with people.  And since this is not real life, this is our cyber life we have on display here, it should be even easier.  I completely believe this: People who are put off, offended, verbally abusive to others with differing views on things such as religion and politics are a bit lacking in the security of their own beliefs.  If you are certain you are right, then that’s that.  Unless you have an emotional investment in the person who disagrees with you, it is in everyone’s best interest to be mature about it and afford that person the right to be wrong in your eyes.

All I could think yesterday and this morning when I read some of the comments I was left was : “WOW, if they really knew me, they might blow a gasket!” AND “Oh, what people in their real life must endure if they don’t live up to the expectations! ”

Oh well, enough of all that.  Back to the gardening thing.  If we EVER get any rain, I am going to plant my pumpkins.  I am anxious to get them in the ground, yet I know how tender and delicate young sprouts are so I don’t want to get over zealous and put them out too early.

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I have my notes made, my cards written an my little garden map finished.  Now to actually get them planted!

I will leave you with one final thought for today, since this IS Thoughtful Thursday.

“What is a friend? I will tell you. It is a person with whom you dare to be yourself. Your soul can be naked with him. He seems to ask of you to put on nothing, only to be what you are. He does not want you to be better or worse. When you are with him, you feel as a prisoner feels who has been declared innocent. You do not have to be on your guard. You can say what you think, so long as it is genuinely you. He understands those contradictions in your nature that lead others to misjudge you. With him you breathe freely. You can avow your little vanities and envies and hates and vicious sparks, your meannesses and absurdities and, in opening them up to him, they are lost, dissolved on the white ocean of his loyality. He understands. You do not have to be careful. You can abuse him, neglect him, tolerate him. Best of all, you can keep still with him. It makes no matter. He likes you. He is like fire that purges to the bone. He understands. You can weep with him, sin with him, laugh with him, pray with him. Through it all – and underneath – he sees, knows and loves you.

A friend? What is a friend?

Just one, I repeat, with whom you dare to be yourself.”

~ C. Raymond Beran ~

Personally, I hope I am that kind of friend.

OH and remember to get your recipes posted…new ones tomorrow!

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victoria

Susan, What a wonderful post… I couldn’t of said it better… you rock…. and are an example for all women to follow!

Love,
Victoria in Houston

thriftmaven

lordamercy!!
I read yesterday’s post and I couldn’t find anything in it to be so controversial…..however, that may be just me.

I raised my child that everyone has a right to their opinion………………..
even when they are wrong.

Green Jean~I do disagree with one point if you don’t mind-I do feel like I know you (even tho cyberly). I find that you are a kindred spirit, a delightful person with many talents and one who is willing to share! Thats what keeps me checking back with you! You have way more in your corner than you even know!! (in fact, its a little crowded here if you want the truth…..haha!)

thank you very much for your blog

Connie

Well said!! I have a really difficult time with those who expect everyone to respect THEIR opinions and views; but would never respect the other person’s right to have a differing viewpoint.

I’m sorry you have been hit with bad comments about your last post. Very well said! I’m with you on staying away from politics and religious topics. They bring out the worst in people. Don’t let it ruin your day…and I’ll send over some rain we have been having quite a bit of it.

After being attacked on Facebook recently for posting my views on a certain California Supreme Court ruling, all I can say is, YOU GO GIRL.

julie

I THINK YOU ARE GREAT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOUR BLOG!!!!!

bibprofessor

just want to say that I’m feeling so honored to be your friend and that you represent some of the very best of US and the world, being open for the plain good life all the best from my heart to you

forkchronicles

I’m so glad we’ve been the kind of friends who agree to disagree- face to face- for several years now. Looking forward to many more years of fun conversations, with lots of contradictions, where we both dare to be ourselves!

whoa….have no idea how someone could have gotten their knickers or panties in a twist over that, but ya know some folks are just plain ..well sheesh… just plain I dunno..grumblers, complainers, meanies, bullies, whatever…you go girl! FREEDOM OF SPEECH!!!
I like you and think your pretty darn cool:0)

donna

I’ve been following your blog for some time now. I may not agree with your opinions, but I value your right to voice those opinions! There will always be someone who disagrees with you or me. It is a wonderful right that we have-the freedom of speech! I hope we all are willing to fight for that right.
I find you delightful, smart and very creative! My mama always said “let it run off you like water off a duck!” ;0)

We have the same computer!! How much do you love your Mac?

marianne

YOU GO GIRL!!!

that’s why it is YOUR blog…it is for YOu to say what You want.

anyway, i don’t know what you even said to get anyone so upset. some people are just out looking for a fight.

love your site just the way it is

Susan…you rock. Don’t let the turkeys get you down!!!
Those pumpkin seed packets are beautiful!!!
My pumpkins are just getting second leaves…as much warmer as you get weather there I bet yours will pass mine right up in no time. I used 8 year old seed from “giant” pumpkins that my second son saved from a farm bought pumpkin for a big old patch he planted himself. I found them in my cellar in a jar marked “Casey’s giant pumpkins”. I am so excited they came up!!

Well, Susan, you have been so prolific these past couple of days, I can hardly keep up. I have read the post you refer to several times and as a writer and writing teacher only note that the rhetorical device you have used is informative not persuasive or didactic. Some may be, say, looking to be offended? This must be a very stressful state of being for them. A very sad state of existence. Constructive, proactive comments would have been so much nicer because democracy with freedom of speech is supposed to be a conversation after all not an irresponsible rhetorical free for all, right? It seems to me that you handle your right to free speech responsibly – after all, these rights are not absolute. Responsibility is imperative to exercising them well. Comment constructively to be heard. Keep blogging – these people are clearly not reading well or listening well anyway. Now, where did I put that soapbox? ~Kelly

I don’t often comment on blogs, I am a serial lurker! BUT I thought this would be a good idea to pop in and say I love your blog. People say things on blogs, especially anonymously, that they never would and NEVER SHOULD say in person. It is so obnoxious! Bloggers should continue to be themselves and allow the comments that help keep the spirit and feeling they would like for their websites. I enjoy a small garden and have a patch in a friend’s garden this year (overflow). I use the Postage Stamp Garden book and Square Foot Garden books as resources.

Denise

Susan,
I would not let the negetavie comments bother you. We DO have freedom of speech in this country and you are FREE to post what you want on your own blog. Personally,
I see nothing offensive in your post. If some do then they have the right go read some other blog or do something else on their computer but it is not necessary to call you on your own posts. They are your posts and you have every right to them.
I love your blog and enjoy your many different posts. Keep it up!

Queen of the fashionably outdated

Miz Suzi, It is for exactly all those reasons that I am blessed to call you my friend and I would expect nothing less from you. Your words have helped more than you know over the last four+ years.
love b

Janeen

I lurve it! ha ha

I especially loved the sentence… Unless you have an emotional investment in the person who disagrees with you, it is in everyone’s best interest to be mature about it and afford that person the right to be wrong in your eyes.

I’m going to write that down in my journal! Something new to say rather than my usual… we’ll just have to agree to disagree.

Hope your having a great weekend!

Julia

This keeps happening — someone with a heretofore apolitical blog suddenly writes something political and is hit with nasty responses. And they’re surprised. Politics in America in 2009 is ALL nasty, ALL the time. If thousands of people read a blog and half or a third disagree with your politics, you KNOW a small percentage of them are going to get nasty about it. No matter who you voted for in November it will happen. Then the rest of us, who kept quiet either because we voted the same way or we respect your right to vote however you see fit, are reading an angry response and angry comments (although in your case we were spared the comments and, mostly, the resulting namecalling/slurs that they would have caused.) It makes me sad, and if I want to be sad I can watch CNN or Fox. I’ve enjoyed reading your blog for the last 2 1/2 years (especially since you’re lucky enough to still live in the state that I foolishly moved away from) but I think I’ll take a break and try to pretend, at least while I’m in blogland, that we still live in a country where people with similar interests can respect each other and get along no matter what their political beliefs.